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  1. I guess the key thing in Scouting’s description of bullying is “behaviour that may be repeated over a period of time”.
    If the micky taking etc. is persistent then it can be considered bullying. The people you refer to in the video may have not played any more ‘jokes’ on their victim after realising he wasn’t happy. But if they continued….
    I guess there is a greater awareness of the problem with bullying, especially as there is now the 24/7 aspect of being able to do it online and via technology. Especially as the online stuff can get VERY nasty and can be difficult to track down (but not impossible).
    I think pranks are ok (being both the victim of and instigator of in the past) but the thing is knowing when to stop and when the ‘joke’ is no longer funny.

    Good thought provoking post.

    YIS


    • I in general agree with the statement that we don’t know if this is a one off prank or a persistent picking on of they young man.

      But should adults really be sharing the post on FB – grey area

      K


  2. What’s missing in the world today is common sense, on both sides of the argument. Plus these days everyone feels the need to be offended by something, if anything you are encouraged to be offended. You can make money from it. Whilst I will always stand up for the underdog, and ‘bullying’ should never be tolerated, some people in life need to lighten up and grow up what ever age you are.

    There has to be a balance struck. A bit of teasing or jovial fun doesn’t actually harm anyone, that might come as a surprise to some. But it’s when the joking comes to be continual or takes a darker turn, that it turns to bully. Not one should do this or accept it, but we all have to find a happy medium.


    • I most defiantly agree and it is the role of adults to manage those situations and make sure that the same person is not the butt of every joke.

      I guess it the whole Youtube-ness of it that got me it was funny one when it happened now people who have no clue who that person is are pointing an laughing at them without that person having any route to come back and say well see how you like it.

      I do agree with your original statement and I often have told scouts as they crept up on a sleeping scout leader with a water bomb – “remember what goes around comes around”

      K


  3. I totally get where you are coming from Chris, I think there is a fine line between humour and bullying. Then again what about peer pressure, the most effective punishment I found at high school was when the teacher would punish the class collectively, thus encouraging the class to encourage the perpetrators not to act up again. I think that could be classed as a form of bullying or mob mentality.

    Another one is my friend who I work with, makes jokes about me being fat, he is an ex-soldier and a huge focus on healthy living. The pressure he applies to me, in a joking manner I know his intention is not to make me feel bad. Like making me go out running, and want to eat salads is good for me and this slightly humorous pressure makes me make good lifestyle choices that otherwise I wouldn’t make. Which I think is a good thing.

    Now onto my most controversial one, I’m disabled, but I want others to compare me to their standards, I want that motivation people to push me that small amount of my comfort zone so that you just push it that slightly bit farther. Like being afraid of abseiling then your friends “egging” you onto do it. It’s the same principle as bullying but in a positive manner, with a positive outcome.

    Where do you draw the line though? I think would be when the receiver is feeling rather uncomfortable, but I think we need to challenge perceptions like this and talk about them in an abstract sense.


    • Matt

      Thank you for your comment, agree that positive re-inforcement in the form of egging someone on to try something they have not done or over come a fear they might have is a good thing.
      I think as it is about a knowledge and understanding of the person.
      I would hope that your friend would realise if your having a bad or stressful day and adjust the way he acts towards you, this shows an understanding of the situation and the person.
      In my experience people who bully do it for the sense of control it gives them they have power over the person being bullied, it does not matter about the person being bullied feelings.
      Thought out my time in scouting I have known people to have nicknames or be called a a big baby cause they did not want to step off the tower and abseil down.
      The difference is when that person does step off and start to abseil everyone cheers and congratulates the person for doing and the names stop, that to me is not bullying, it is peer pressure but peer pressure for the good of the person.

      YiS
      K

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